Now That We’re Friends

Where can Daniel find an artistic community without paying for one?

That's a wrap on National Poetry Month 2022! And a wrap on this special series of the pod! But we'll be back. Maybe for National Hot Dog Month (July) or Banana Pudding Lovers Month (November). Hopefully sooner!

But in this final April 2022 episode, we talk MFA programs. Are they a necessity when trying to build an artistic community? Can our new friend Daniel find like-minded folks to collaborate with in a less conventional (and less expensive) environment? We hope so, cause he's our friend and we CARE about him! 

This week's recs:

Caro

1. Truth & Beaty: A Friendship by Ann Patchett (book)
2. Working It Out with Mike Birbiglia (podcast)
3. Get Back (documentary)
4. Self Help Poems by Sampson Starkweather (book)

Anne

1. Song (I'm Going To New York) by Frank O’Hara (poem)
2. Larry Rivers: A Memoir by Frank O’Hara (poem)
3. Life of a poet (Library of Congress series)
4. With A little Help From My Friends by The Beatles (song)
5. Under Pressure by Queen and David Bowie (song)
6. The Way to Keep Going in Antarctica by Bernadette Mayer (poem)

Gale

1. Good Will Hunting (film)
2. The Chain by Fleetwood Mack (song)
3. Across The Universe (film) …not really
4. Ghost Machine by Cake Train by Ben Mirov (book) “Eye, Ghost” (poem) 

Why do we keep leaving Marika on read?

Seen by all...

 

Anne

1. Love, I’m Done with You by Ross Gay- poem
2. Luster by Raven Leilani- book
3. Circe by Madaline Miller- book

Caro

1. Don’t Think Twice It’s All Right by Bob Dylan- song
2. Bunny by Mona Awad- novel
3. Space Junk by Lisa Olstein -poem

Gale

1. Dancing on my own by Robyn -song
2. Valentine by Fiona Apple- song
3. I’m Still Standing by Elton John- song
4. I’ve Been Waiting On You by - song
5. Are You Alright by Lucinda Williams- song
6. Simply The Best by Schitts Creek -song/video/scene/cultural moment
7. Certainty by Big Thief - song 
8. Gale’s Spotify Playlist 
9. Cosmos by Carl Sagon - book
10. Murmurs of Earth: The Voyager Interstellar Record by Carl Sagan- book

     

Can Vicky have an adult relationship with her parents?

We all struggle to have that perfect parent/child relationship that the Kardashian/Jenners have. But sometimes it's harder than being born into wealth. It can often mean work, and no one wants to work these days... We don't know why there's been three digs at America's first family in this episode description, especially given they're not mentioned once in this episode or even alluded to. Anyway, Vicky wants help forming an adult relationship with her parentals and boy have we got ideas, both from our brains and from our recommendations. Enjoy this episode (possibly with a tissue nearby) and enjoy the occasional keyboard clicks Lisann didn't edit out because she doesn't want to work <3

 

Caro

1. Milk Blood Heat by Dantiel W. Moniz- short story collection, specifically “The Hearts of Our Enemies”
2. Those Winter Sundays by Robert Hayden- poem
3. The Raincoat by Ada Limón  - poem
4. What doesn’t Kill You Makes You Blacker by Damon Young - book, specifically "Meet my dad, the Grim Reaper’s publicist”
5. Finding Raffi- podcast

Anne

1. Heavyweight- podcast, specifically Episode 15 “Dina”
2. When I Grow Up, I Want to Be a List of Further Possibilities by Chen Chen- book
3. I Invite My Parents to a Dinner Party by Chen Chen- poem
4. The Nix by Nathan Hill-novel

Gale 

1. This Be the Verse by Philip Larkin -poem 
2. Crying in H Mart by Michelle Zauner -book, specifically "What My Mother Ate” 
3. To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee-book
4. Anne of Green Gables??? 

Can we help Madari escape the grind (culture)?

"Now That We’re Ladders," "Now That We’re Undergirds," "Now That We’re Subtweeting," "Making Anne Feel Good"? It's been a looong couple of years. We think we remember the name of the podcast. We know there's a song... Anyway, Madari is tired of grind culture. Same. It's 9:33pm on a Friday as we're typing this... But is it "grinding" if it's with friends? That's a question for another episode. For now, we're tackling work/life balance, identifying with your career, thanking God it's Monday (who does this?), being very busy, also telling people we're "very busy." And what it all has to do with that one time Coach Beard was on mushrooms during a game on Ted Lasso. You can find out more about this week's recommendations below. It's still 2019 right?

 

Caro

1. Romantic Comedies- poem by Mark Leidner
2. What Do People Do All Day?- book by Richard Scarry 
3. Fyre Fraud- documentary on Hulu 
4. Cat’s Cradle - book by Kurt Vonnegut Jr.
5. Party Down- TV show
6. I’m a Very Productive Entrepreneur- book by Mathias Svalina

Anne

1. How To Become A Writer-  short story by Lorrie Moore
2. Custom Concern- song by Modest Mouse
3. Once In A Lifetime- song by Talking Heads
4. 9-5- song by Dolly Parton
5. Ben from Parks & Rec
6. The Slow Down- podcast by Ada Limón 
7. On Being Asked What’s Your Dream Job- poem by Ally Ang

Gale

1. The Applicant- poem by Sylvia Plath
2. Remembering Jerry from Parks & Rec and Toby from The Office
3. The West Wing- TV show
4. Star Trek- TV show
5. News Radio- TV show
6. Animal Crossing
7. The Great British Bakeoff- TV Show, but specifically Luis from S1

Now That We're Quarantined LIVE... on Zoom

Well, *sigh*, things sure have changed since we last caught up with Anne, Caroline, Gale and Producer Lisann. Since O,Miami's annual April festival went O,nline, we gathered via Zoom at 3:05 PM on April 11th, 2020 for our first "live" episode of Now That We're Friends.

We went through a few listener questions about life in quarantine. We read our favorite isolation poems and played our go-to lonely jams. We speculated on how we'll react to each another once we're all out in the open again. And we talked about how we're essentially in a time portal right now.

So hop into the time portal that is this episode, where your new friends will great you on the other side with the best recs!

Our Quarantine Recs: 

- 30 Rock "100" episode Gale

- Don't Let Me Be Lonely: An American Lyric Book by Claudia Rankine Gale

- "Are You Alright" by Lucinda Williams Gale

- "Nick and the Candlestick" by Sylvia Plath Gale

- Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine, Gail Honeyman (novel) Anne

- Emergency and I, The Dismemberment Plan, (album); "The Jitters" (song) Anne

- Midwinter Day, Bernadette Mayer (poetry collection) Anne

- Age of Miracles by Karen Thompson Walker (novel) Caro

- "The Lean Reward" by Cherry Pickman (poem) & "Movies of Myself" by Rufus Wainwright (song) Caro

- The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry (novella) Caro 

- Westworld (tv series) Lisann 

- Devs (tv series) Lisann 

- Acoustic covers of pop songs Lisann 

• “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun” Greg Laswell or Finn from Glee

• “Dancing On My Own” Calum Scott

- Poems from Anne, Gale and Caroline. Lisann 

• [In this small tent men pound] by Gale Thompson
• Ten of Spades by Caroline Cabrera
• Poems from "Dead Year" by Anne Holmes

- You've Got Mail (film) Lisann 

- Plays where people are stuck together. Lisann 

• No Exit 
• Bad Jews

Our Holiday Spectacular!

Happy Honda Days from Anne, Gale and Caroline! On our 2019 holiday spectacular we tackle common holiday problems like dealing with family, holiday depression and giving a gift to someone you don’t like. Our recommendations take us to Christmas House, Stars Hollow, Scranton and a deserted island to celebrate/lament the holidays. We also reflect on our own Christmas past, present and future (if you’re into tarot cards) to help guide ALL our friends through the holidays!

Our holiday gifts to our friends and listeners:

Heavyweight (podcast) Caro “Buzz” 1st ep. “Scott” “Rob”

“Gut shot” by Amelia Grey “Christmas House” (short story) Anne

Friday Nights Are Alright For Fighting (Gilmore Girls episode) Gale

“A better son/ daughter” Rilo Kiley (song) Anne

Henri the cat (YouTube series) Anne

“A Long December” by the Counting Crows (song) Caro

Do a tarot reading (activity) Caro

Little Women (movie) Gale

The Office “Secret Santa” Anne

Gremlins (movie) Anne

Castaway (movie) Gale

“Winter Is A Terrible Place” by Lauren Ireland (Poem) Caro

“Fuck you” by S.E. Smith (poem) Caro

When Caroline Met Anne And Gale (Minisode)

Caroline, Anne and Gale reminisce on how their 10 years of friendship began at grad school in Massachusetts.  

Is A Baby Part Of Dylan's Narrative?

On our season finale, we help guide our new friend Dylan as she struggles with fertility issues. Gale shares her own personal story of how she hopes to one day be a mother. Caroline leads us in an important conversation about Tig Notaro (because every conversation about Tig Notaro is important) and Anne asks (with the help of Neko Case), "Is a lioness not a lion motherfucker?"

Enjoy our last episode of season 1! We'll be back soon! 

 

What Dylan should expect if she's not expecting:

“Vessel for purpose” by Leora Fridman (poem) Caro

"The Carrying" by Ada Limón (book) Anne

"The Vulture And The Body" By Ada Limón (poem) Anne

"Tyring" by Ada Limón 

“The Untelling” by Alicia Rebecca Myers (poem) Gale

“Becoming” by Michelle Obama (book) Anne

Tig (documentary) Caro

Two Dope Queens with Tig Notaro (podcast) Caro

Do You Need A Ride? With Tig Notaro (podcast) Gale

This American Life “Plan B” (radio show/ podcast episode) Anne

Mrs. Weasley in Harry Potter (character) Gale

Nora and Pete in Pete’s Dragon (character) Gale

"Little Men" by Louisa May Alcott (book)Mr. and Mrs. Bhaer (characters) Gale

Hamilton finale (song) Caro

Les Miserables (play) Jean Valjean’s relationship with Cosette (character) Anne

“An American Marriage” by Tayari Jones (book) Caro

“The Misfortune of Marion Palm” by Emily Culliton (book) Caro

Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Star Trek Voyager, Star Trek Next Generation, X Files, Charmed, Russian Doll (tv episodes with Groundhog Day plots) Gale

Neko Case (musician) “Man” (song) Hell-On (album) Anne

“The Amazons: Lives and Legends of Warrior Women across the Ancient World” by Adrienne Mayor (book) Anne

Dixie Chicks (musicians) “Heartbreak Town” “Top of the World” “Sin Wagon” “Wide Open Spaces” (songs) Caro

“In The Meantime” by Lisa Olstein (poem) Gale

Should Alex Confront A Sabotaging Coworker?

Our new friend Alex is being undermined at work. They don't know how to handle a coworker who's trying to make them look bad. Conflict is never easy, especially at work. We try to give Alex the recommendations that can bet help them confront a coworker without losing their cool. In the process, Gale comes up with a meditation app where every meditation is guided by Guy Fieri. Caroline channels her inner Marisa Tomei and Anne shares a lesson about the importance of your outside of work relationships with the help of Ugly Betty! 

Alex's Conflict Resolution Tips:

"Nonviolent Communication: A Language Of Life" by Marshall Rosenberg (book) Caro

Say Ouch! (Tactic) Gale

Laurence Fishburne as Othello (movie) Caro

The Prince by Niccolò Machiavelli (book) Gale

Ugly Betty (tv show) Anne

Calm App (phone application) Guide: Tamara Levit Anne

"White is for Witching" by Helen Oyeyemi (book) Caro

"The Silence of the Lambs" by Thomas Harris (book!) Gale

Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend with Kumail Nanjiani (podcast) Anne

"Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?" By Mindy Kaling (book) Jack and Diane excerpt Caro

Procedural dramas (tv genre) The Closer (tv show) Nancy Drew (character) Caro

My Cousin Vinny (film) Caro

Miranda Bailey from Grey’s Anatomy, The Time Warp Season 6 (episode), Every woman in The West Wing!, (Characters) Gale

"Provenance" by Mary Ruefle (poem) Anne

We Help Tyler Survive High School

Our new friend Tyler is starting high school. His aunt Susie wants her awesome nephew to have all the right tools to help him survive and thrive during that time we all remember so well. This assignment takes Anne back to the 80s, when teenagerdom was at its peak. She reminisces on VHS tapes and her days in the school band. Caroline taps into Tyler's parkour proclivities. Gale would like to forget high school, but she won't forget the advice her mom gave her when she was in high school. To find out what else we have to offer Tyler, stand by us and listen to the full episode! 

Tyler's high school-level homework:

Freaks and Geeks (tv show) Anne

Stranger Things (tv show) Caro

“In The Waiting Room” by Elizabeth Bishop (poem) Caro

Almost Famous (movie) Caro

Sex Education (tv show) Gale

The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay by Michael Chabon (novel) Caro

Stand By Me (movie) Anne

"At Last The New Arriving" by Gabrielle Calvocoressi (poem) Gale

"The Hand" by Mary Ruefle (poem) Anne

The First 4 Books of Sampson Starkweather (book) Caro

Dead Poet’s Society (film) Anne

Watch ballet -Alvin Ailey (dance) Caro

Don’t just study the night before and eat an egg sandwich for breakfast. (Advice) Gale’s mom